tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4811260945776721732.post926184217796663722..comments2023-04-04T02:12:56.122-07:00Comments on Fresh Vision Quest: Individual HappinessV Shttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00911986364398915343noreply@blogger.comBlogger9125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4811260945776721732.post-2147536404524705492009-10-29T09:17:10.803-07:002009-10-29T09:17:10.803-07:00Elisa: I understand that you want to say that you ...Elisa: I understand that you want to say that you are thinking that your friend may have a change in attitude and become more caring later.<br /><br />Honestly, if a friend would ask me the same question, I would ask him/her why he/she wants to have children? The answer to this question, would perhaps be the basis of the advice.VSnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4811260945776721732.post-51289480394614174652009-10-29T07:15:16.910-07:002009-10-29T07:15:16.910-07:00(Mine is a general question. I do not have a frien...(Mine is a general question. I do not have a friend knocking on my door and asking this question).elisa freschihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17068583874519657894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4811260945776721732.post-79767792566025102332009-10-29T07:14:07.212-07:002009-10-29T07:14:07.212-07:00Thanks for your insightful and refreshing answer, ...Thanks for your insightful and refreshing answer, VS. <br />Now, what would you say to a friend who is uncertain about having children or not and asks for your advice? Suppose that he/she is the kind of person you will not expect to invest much time in his/her relationship with children. Still, children often do CAUSE a change in their parents' attitude.elisa freschihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17068583874519657894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4811260945776721732.post-85318349286081092772009-10-28T09:31:38.227-07:002009-10-28T09:31:38.227-07:00Elisa: Dan Gilbert is an expert. I do not read Amo...Elisa: Dan Gilbert is an expert. I do not read Amod Lele's blog. Their reasons for saying so could be that children bring responsibilities. My view is that the answer is how we view children and our relationships in general. If we consider that children are commodities (like the latest car or gadget) supposed to make us happy, then we can expect to be disappointed. If we consider that relationships do not require effort and if we do not purposefully work to make them evolve then we cannot expect to gain much in term of meaning from those relationships, including those with children.<br /><br />Our mindset determines a lot our response to a reactions. Modern day living has made people equate children with responsibility and decreased personal time, thus the attitude. Sunlight cannot enter a room with closed doors and windows.VSnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4811260945776721732.post-3639599149019279392009-10-27T13:32:38.830-07:002009-10-27T13:32:38.830-07:00Dear VS,
sorry for posting here a more general que...Dear VS,<br />sorry for posting here a more general question. Since some months I started re-considering what I initially accepted to be obviously true, that is, that children make on happy. Dan Gilbert ("Stumbling on happiness") and Amod Lele (you probably read his blog) maintain that it is not so. What's your opinion about it? I am asking a general question although I know that the answer is strictly individual, because Gilbert and Lele (and many others) seem to be quite definitive about the fact that by and large children do not make one happier –still to raise children is often a way to make one's life very significant and (in your words) "meaningful".elisa freschihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17068583874519657894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4811260945776721732.post-51754997388961240162009-10-27T08:19:06.265-07:002009-10-27T08:19:06.265-07:00VSB: I think the definitions can be individual, bu...VSB: I think the definitions can be individual, but then probably its developing characteristic strengths to the level of excellence another aspect which has to be considered.VSnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4811260945776721732.post-79865717797985575462009-10-25T22:32:06.370-07:002009-10-25T22:32:06.370-07:00Hmmmm... a meaningful life, perhaps that ia a part...Hmmmm... a meaningful life, perhaps that ia a partial defination of happiness for me. What was it that Gautama the Buddha experienced which had him moving beyond the defination, identification and contemplation of happiness to experiencing it unconditionally?VSBnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4811260945776721732.post-39309725301956705932009-10-23T10:37:13.583-07:002009-10-23T10:37:13.583-07:00Nick thanks for your views.Nick thanks for your views.VSnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4811260945776721732.post-53738786410194959612009-10-23T00:49:16.239-07:002009-10-23T00:49:16.239-07:00Hi,
by asking "what is happiness" you ...Hi, <br /><br />by asking "what is happiness" you ask a very good question. Recently I had my own shot at defining happiness, which aims to be more “scientific” and “objective” (as much as this is possible for a subjective feeling such as happiness): <br /><br />“A person can be considered to have experienced a “happy” moment if the person chooses to re-live it as an end in itself if offered at no cost.”<br /><br />For the detailed derivation of this conclusion please have a look at http://www.spreadinghappiness.org/2009/08/what-is-happiness/; I’d love to hear what you think! <br /><br />Thank you, <br /><br />NickUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06531712096447699248noreply@blogger.com