Sunday, May 24, 2015

Key to Life and Julia Lennon

“When I was 5 years old, my mother always told me that happiness was the key to life. When I went to school, they asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up. I wrote down ‘happy’. They told me I didn’t understand the assignment, and I told them they didn’t understand life.”
- John Lennon

This quote from John Lennon is often referred in messages on happiness. Particularly, because of the quote, I wondered what sort of personality did John Lennon's mother, Julia Lennon have. Although earlier biographies depicted her as a flirtatious and frivolous woman, later accounts showed her as a wonderful woman with a heart of gold, warm, jovial, playful and with a love for music. She bought John his first guitar, taught him banjo and ukulele chords and also how to play the piano accordion. She comes across as a woman for whom love was a primary motivator and who was trying to manage her life in a old-fashioned society, with a family which frequently challenged her decisions. Her tragic death in a road accident traumatized John and her memory inspired songs such as Julia and Mother. For someone who was trying to follow her heart while balancing the several demands placed on her by her family and social norms, she certainly seemed capable of conveying the message that happiness is the key to life. 

Tuesday, February 10, 2015

The 5 Winning Leadership Qualities of Arvind Kejriwal





 

1. Integrity


Of all the facets of leadership, integrity is the most important. Integrity goes beyond just being honest. Integrity is about being consistent, honest and trustworthy. Leaders with integrity are consistent in their words and action even during adversity. They maintain their authenticity and honesty across time and situations.

Arvind Kejriwal (AK) has consistently spoken and displayed the same core values over a period of years. Compare this with his rival for the chief minister’s position who is known to be very honest but has not displayed consistency in her stance on important issues like corruption.

Integrity builds trust because it provides an idea of a leader’s likely behaviour when an opportunity for selfish conduct presents itself.  Trust develops more at the subconscious level rather than as a series of careful thoughts. Intellectually you may not agree with AK but, instinctively you know that you can sleep peacefully if he says that he will be on watch.

2. Resilience


Resilience is the tenacity to carry on in the face of a setback despite the situation appearing hopeless. After facing a formidable blow, resilient leaders take speedy action, and not only do they bounce back quickly, they build the momentum to bounce forward.

After the Lok Sabha election, AK’s party was battered, ridiculed and morale was down. Many political commentators wrote them off. However, AK kept his focus, did not become defensive and took significant action to create a positive environment which rejuvenated the party cadre to carve out a memorable victory.

3. Judgment


One of the most important facets of leadership which remains esoteric is judgment about people and situations. It is said that with good judgment, little else matters and without good judgment, nothing else matters. The right judgment call in a crisis situation could result in glory and a wrong one could result in disaster. A leader also needs to make the right call about choosing people to depend upon to tide over challenging situations.  A leader with defined goals and a clear set of values, who spends effort in objectively understanding the environment usually gets the judgment calls right.

AK spent time understanding the political environment and defining the path which would lead his team to success in the assembly elections. He chose the candidates who would inspire confidence in the voters. When the opponents mounted their campaign, he had already studied their possible moves and his team was already prepared for it, forcing the rivals to change their strategy several times. Need it be mentioned that the judgment call for Kiran Bedi as chief minister candidate was quite wrong?

4. Communication


The leadership attribute which is essential to secure the benefits of the other leadership qualities is communication. Great leaders have the ability to communicate their ideas in a simple way which connects to a person’s emotions. They prefer to communicate the truth and their words are powered by the credibility they have generated.

Leaders who are great communicators are good listeners too and are able to sense the moods, dynamics and concerns of the people they are interacting with. They have the ability to change the presentation of their message according to the environment they are in.

AK and his team engaged the people of Delhi in a dialogue to outline the vision for their state. They exchanged ideas and discussed possibilities. Along with the apology for quitting without consulting the people, the message that he was going to stay for the complete term was conveyed by the simple slogan “Paanch saal Kejriwal” (Kejriwal for 5 years). Compare this approach with that of the rival parties who did not seem to be listening to the people and wanted them to consume whatever was being generated by the propaganda machinery. Isn’t it quite apparent now, whom the people chose to listen to?

5. Servanthood


There are leaders who want to serve first and then lead. They make sure that the priority needs of other people are served before their own; they share power and create the environment for people to perform optimally. These leaders are servant leaders. Such leaders believe that each person has value which can be enhanced, and they move ahead by putting others first.

"the king [leader] shall consider as good, not what pleases himself but what pleases his subjects [followers]" "the king [leader] is a paid servant and enjoys the resources of the state together with the people."
Chanakya, 4th century BCE

AK’s decision to enter politics was fueled by the desire to make things better for the people of the country (His opponents enjoyed calling him an “activist”). The manifesto drafted by AAP is a reflection of what the people want for themselves. It heralds the beginning of sharing power with the people in decision making. This is what AK calls Swaraj. The rival parties seemed to have already decided what was good for the people and apparently were more focused on the execution of these plans, in consonance with the authoritarian style of leading.

Wednesday, September 11, 2013

World Happiness Report

Looking for someplace happy with satisfied people around? Try Denmark. According to the World Happiness Report, it is the happiest country in the world. The other countries in the top 5 happy countries are Norway, Switzerland, Netherlands and Sweden.

The six key variables which have been used to explain the average scores are:

(i) Real GDP per capita
(ii) Healthy life expectancy
(iii) Having someone to count on
(iv) Perceived freedom to make life choices
(v) Freedom from corruption
(vi) Generosity

The Report also shows that happy people live longer, are more productive, earn more, and are also better citizens. 

It appears that there is a growing trend amongst governments to start thinking of aligning policies with what can really improve people's overall well-being rather than just focus on economic growth. Although the report mentions that Bhutan has gone the furthest to measure their progress with reference to the happiness of their citizens, Bhutan has not been included in this list. This has been explained by the fact that  survey questions used to determine happiness levels in the report are not the same as usually used in the country.

The ranks of some other notable countries are: Canada (6), Australia (10), Israel (11), Mexico (16), USA (17), UK (22), Brazil (24), France (25), Germany (26), Singapore (30), Japan (43), Italy (45), Russia (68), China (93) and India (111).



Monday, July 29, 2013

Happiness Equations (4)



A Feel Good Formula has been proposed by Dr. Todd Kashdan.


Feeling Good = (Mx16 + Cx1 + Lx2) + (Tx5 + Nx2 + Bx33)

In this equation, M = Live in the moment - appreciate the sounds, smells and sights that you take for granted everyday. Remind yourself every waking hour to do this (M x 16).

C = Be curious - explore the unfamiliar, mysterious, complex, and uncertain aspects of our world once a day (C x 1).

L = Do something you love – if there is anything that provides the framework for a well-lived life it is the presence of activities that are important to us and excite us. Do this once at work and once at play (L x 2).

T = Think of others first – offer compliments, do a good deed and listen. This is not intuitive because many believe you need to love yourself before you can love others. Science has found this to be false. Do this five times a day (T x 5) and you’ll soon see it feels good to make someone feel good.

N = Nurture relationships – dedicate time to a partner, friend or family member twice a day (N x 2). Scientists have discovered that when you observe the happiest people on the planet, every single one has a close, significant relationship with another person.

B = Take care of your body – no, you do not need three per cent body fat, nor do you need to be able to pound through three sets of 15 unassisted handstand push-ups. Taking care of your body is about healthy eating at least three times a day and committing 30 minutes per day to exercise (B x 33).

According to Dr. Kashdan there is no single secret to feeling good, but when these "happiness six" ingredients are carefully attended to, in the right doses, a person will be on target for a happy life.

Sunday, October 30, 2011

The Eight Irresistible Priciples of Fun

I happened to find this animated movie at box of crayons. It is full of wisdom to infuse fun and zest in our lives.


Monday, August 22, 2011

The Man in the Arena


The following passage is from Theodore Roosevelt's speech titled Citizenship in a Republic. It is also sometimes referred to as 'The Man in the Arena'.

Quote "It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat." Unquote

Isn't it a fact that effort and courage bring much more happiness than simple musings and yet many of us don't take that one small step that stands between mediocrity and glory.

Tuesday, June 7, 2011

Sleep and Productivity

I had previously posted on the relationship between sleep and mood. Arianna Huffington is a proponent of adequate sleep. In this small video, she uses humour to emphasize her point that sleep may be related to increased productivity and happiness.